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Welp, how about another attempt at the whole "logging" thing.....................
Been away for a while. Work picked up dramatically, as did the family life. The wife is now back in school 3 nights per week going for her PsyD, while still working full time; she's crazy. This puts me home alone with the little one all night Mon and Tues, and until around 2pm on Saturday. I don't mind, as I love spending time with her and this gives her a lot more alone time with her daddy than most little girls get, which will only help our relationship throughout her life.
Anyone who is not married or doesn't have children but plans to, and is reading this, please pay attention. If you are not in a place in your life/relationship where you would happily sacrifice almost anything for your spouse/child to make them happy, then do not get married or have children. This is an absolute must in my opinion and is a reason that a lot of marriages do not work.
If it is potentially a really big sacrifice, such as quitting your job and moving, it doesn't necessarily have to be made, but at least having it up on the table as a possibility for discussion will make your partner feel more supported than you can imagine and will do nothing but help the situation. If the reason for not making the sacrifice can be explained logically, then that will come out in your discussion about the topic. If it can't, then it is simply you being selfish and will hopefully prompt you to reflect on what the true priorities in your life are. If you are in a relationship with someone who truly cares about you, they will never actually ask you to make significant sacrifices. Those sacrifices that you do make then become gifts that you give them in order to help them achieve whatever they are seeking. I assure you, nothing is a more satisfying gift for you to give or for your partner to receive than a happily made sacrifice with no strings attached. I MEAN NOTHING!
It is your job to support your spouse, help remove obstacles from their path, and set them up for success. If you are not willing to do that, then run away. If your partner is not willing to do that, run away. If you partner would have no problem allowing you to make a sacrifice that made them happy, but you miserable, run away. If you partner would concede little sacrifices/compromises that you want to make, but would fight you to the death before they would compromise your happiness for theirs, don't ever let them go.
Been away for a while. Work picked up dramatically, as did the family life. The wife is now back in school 3 nights per week going for her PsyD, while still working full time; she's crazy. This puts me home alone with the little one all night Mon and Tues, and until around 2pm on Saturday. I don't mind, as I love spending time with her and this gives her a lot more alone time with her daddy than most little girls get, which will only help our relationship throughout her life.
Anyone who is not married or doesn't have children but plans to, and is reading this, please pay attention. If you are not in a place in your life/relationship where you would happily sacrifice almost anything for your spouse/child to make them happy, then do not get married or have children. This is an absolute must in my opinion and is a reason that a lot of marriages do not work.
If it is potentially a really big sacrifice, such as quitting your job and moving, it doesn't necessarily have to be made, but at least having it up on the table as a possibility for discussion will make your partner feel more supported than you can imagine and will do nothing but help the situation. If the reason for not making the sacrifice can be explained logically, then that will come out in your discussion about the topic. If it can't, then it is simply you being selfish and will hopefully prompt you to reflect on what the true priorities in your life are. If you are in a relationship with someone who truly cares about you, they will never actually ask you to make significant sacrifices. Those sacrifices that you do make then become gifts that you give them in order to help them achieve whatever they are seeking. I assure you, nothing is a more satisfying gift for you to give or for your partner to receive than a happily made sacrifice with no strings attached. I MEAN NOTHING!
It is your job to support your spouse, help remove obstacles from their path, and set them up for success. If you are not willing to do that, then run away. If your partner is not willing to do that, run away. If you partner would have no problem allowing you to make a sacrifice that made them happy, but you miserable, run away. If you partner would concede little sacrifices/compromises that you want to make, but would fight you to the death before they would compromise your happiness for theirs, don't ever let them go.
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