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    Would you rather be huge or happy?

    I see a lot of people on a daily basis that spend a large percentage of their days TOTALLY involved and obsessed with Bodybuilding and Powerlifting. And while there is nothing wrong with this if it is your livelihood or you plan to make it your livelihood, many, if not most of these guys and girls would be well advised to start spending more of their time working on what will really make them happy.

    What is it that will make them really happy? While I sure can’t state what that will be for all these people, I can surely state that if they are of the belief that as soon as they get the body they want they will be happy, they will likely be disappointed. Instead they will probably:

    1. Want to take it to the next level, thereby starting the process anew.
    2. Still will probably not be truly happy.

    Being happy comes from within, not from without, and if you truly believe that you will be happy once you get the “body you really want” I can assure you are going to be disappointed. We go through life believing that we will be happy “when”. The “when” is when we get the body we want, when we have our children, when we buy the house of our dreams, when we get the job of our dreams, when we get the car we really want, when we retire, and on and on. And while all of these things are great, and will give us temporary happiness, none of them will truly make us happy in the long-term. As soon as they are achieved the ego WILL ask for more, and will make you damn uncomfortable until the next rung of the latter is achieved.

    This is what keeps us going, this is what makes us achieve, and this is what has made America great you say. This is what inspires us to always push the envelope and want more. That is true…….but it’s also true that this is what binds us, and stops us from being truly happy. Look at all the lavishly rich people that have EVERYTHING. They have fame and fortune. All the money and material wealth anyone could ever ask for. And look how many of them are drug addicts, alcoholics, or live abusively in untold ways. Why? They don’t train their minds. A mind left untrained and untamed without a philosophical or religious base, or belief system that is supportive to happiness will always end up disappointed with life and unhappy. For every hour I spend on lifting, I spend at least five hours devoted to training the mind. This has done so much more for me than ANYTHING I have ever achieved, bought or owned.

    How to train your mind? There are a HUGE multitude of ways. The first thing needs to be cultivating a belief system that works for YOU. I once listened to a self-help tape years ago where the author of the tape asked a friend of his how it was he was always upbeat, smiling and energetic. The guys response was: I’m above ground, any day I’m alive and above ground is a great day because I know any of us could be dead tomorrow and I am 100% thankful that I’m still here and able to enjoy this life. Pretty simple huh? That technique is not likely to work for too many people, simply because it gets awful easy to lose sight of what we really have, but it sure was effective for the person in question. It starts with key beliefs that are supportive to a state of overall happiness, and then is built on one branch at a time.

    Religion is a great ay to find deep and lasting happiness if you REALLY believe and apply the teachings. I am Buddhist and Buddhism is called many things. Some call it a Philosophy, others religion. But the bottom line is Buddhism in most forms is simply mind training through various forms of physical, contemplative, and various states of mediation, Other religions are much the same, but many simply ask for true faith in their deity. And……these religions are WONDERFUL for those with the psychology that this type of religion appeals to. Every single study has shown that deeply religious people are much more happy than those that are not.

    If you do not have a religious bent, philosophy is a great way to put together an integrated belief system that can ultimately define and determine your happiness. There are a myriad of self-help systems out there that have happiness as the primary goal and many of these systems are likely to be of real benefit for at least some of you.

    The basic goal of humans is to be happy, and avoid suffering. But if you are under the illusion that happiness comes from external sources you will forever be frustrated. Time spent working on disciplining your mind and developing a belief system that will ultimately lead to being happy irregardless if your external environment is what you would like it to be is the key to long-term happiness.

    Live long and be happy

    Iron Addict
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    Nice post IA, I must say you really do contribute a lot fo good things like this, kudos to happiness
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    • #3
      good post bro.. im with u on the happy things and whats most important to us... i have to agree that in bodybuilding a bodybuilder will never be truly happy with just having the physique u want... i understand this.

      Family and friends, that is what makes me and keeps me strong.. I know many guys out here who train hard for shows and compete, they actually win these shows but they have no one in the audience to cheer them... they go to these shows alone.. no family, no friends..

      i feel real bad for some of these guys cause i dont know what i would do without my people.. I could win every show i enter from now on..every national level show, hell the Olympia... but it wouldnt mean shit if my family and friends werent there to savor those moments with me... competing wouldnt mean a damn thing...

      This is what makes me happy...

      Pudge
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      • #4
        if i was huge then i would be happy.

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        • #5
          Thats what we all think when we are 16. Then at some point you end up huge and realize that you are still not happy unless you have much more in your life than being "huge". The best body and all the money in the world will will leave you asking "is this all there is?" unless you have a beleif system that is supportive of happiness. And if you really tihink all you need to be happy is to be huge you don't understand the human psyche at all.

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          • #6
            it was just a joke.

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            • #7
              Great post.

              I started training at age 17 at a b/weight of 150 lbs and my current height of 6'0". I was a skinny, insecure and unhappy kid with zero self confidene in my own abilities and (like many before me) sought solace in the iron and started lifting.

              19 years later I:

              Tip the scales at 285 lbs off season
              Compete at around 235 - 240 lb
              have won a National level amateur BBing title (here in Australia where I live)
              Have a lovely wife and family
              Have a great career with a nice salary and benefits

              Have these things made me happy? Yes of course, to varying degrees (my family and son are the centre of my world) but the thing that I have learnt on this journey and the thing that brings me the most happiness and inner peace is that I now know that I can achieve anything I want if I am prepared to do what it takes to achieve that goal.

              This brings a feeling of contentment, one of being in control and self confidence that I never dreamed I would have as a child.

              I have long since come to realise that being the biggest, baddest mofo in the gym is nice but will never brings ultimate happiness, in and of itself. What is responsible for my happiness is knowing I can do it if thats what i really want and I am willing to dedicate myself to achieving that.

              At nearly 37 years of age I like my life and I like being me. I compete for the enjoyment it brings to my life, not because I have delusions of becoming an IFBB pro and "making it big" etc etc etc. Sure my arms could be bigger and my calves suck but hey, I am working on it.

              I consider myself very fortunate to have the blessings I have and never ever take a day above ground for granted.

              MA92
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              • #8
                At your level of competition, MrAust, you are in the minority with your balanced life. You are the exception to the rule. I know I am, too, and that is why I can say this.

                Most guys that get to your level have put it all on the line, sold their souls to the devil and rolled the dice. I have MUCH respect for guys like you, bro, and if I hear one more kid complain about how tough it is to compete or even grow or train while in college while single, no mortgage, part time job bouncing at a club and no kids, I am going to fucking puke. It literally makes my blood boil.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Skip
                  At your level of competition, MrAust, you are in the minority with your balanced life. You are the exception to the rule. I know I am, too, and that is why I can say this.

                  Most guys that get to your level have put it all on the line, sold their souls to the devil and rolled the dice. I have MUCH respect for guys like you, bro, and if I hear one more kid complain about how tough it is to compete or even grow or train while in college while single, no mortgage, part time job bouncing at a club and no kids, I am going to fucking puke. It literally makes my blood boil.

                  Skip
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                  • #10
                    I still remember when i didnt train and was fat and out of shape. I was happy for different reasons now even though i have made drastic improvements in my physique, i dont wake up in the morning and say im happy because i look good, its brings me hapiness to train and see the results but its simply a small part.

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                    • #11
                      this thread hits very close to home for me,, in my mind, lookin like a million dollars = feelin like a million dollars...i always figured once i got into contest shape i would be the happiest person in the world, truth be told as the weeks went by and i was less than 2 weeks out i just felt like shit, nothing was good enough...after the contest i reflected and realized how lucky i am to just be alive, and that no matter what i look like i should be happy, competing was the best thing i ever did.....i still struggle with wanting to look a certain way, but i have a much better perspective now
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                      • #12
                        I go to bed with her every night...so now at almost 260LBS I am huge and happy !
                        Last edited by deepsquat; 11-26-2004, 12:20 AM.
                        This girls walks up to me and says " My God you're good looking!"

                        I say" I know!"

                        She gets offended and says" WHAT?!"

                        I said " I know I am goodlooking!"

                        She said " You're also and ASSHOLE!"

                        I said " I know that too!"

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                        • #13
                          try again
                          This girls walks up to me and says " My God you're good looking!"

                          I say" I know!"

                          She gets offended and says" WHAT?!"

                          I said " I know I am goodlooking!"

                          She said " You're also and ASSHOLE!"

                          I said " I know that too!"

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                          • #14
                            nice deepsquat, god bless ya
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