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  • Jealous Friends..

    I was looking for a different title but wasn't sure how to explain it. I don't even know if it is jealousy or what.

    I have some friends who always seem to make negative comments. I don't know what it is. I am not super wealthy, down to earth, always up for a good time and don't care about a status. But man, some friends seem to get so pissy over what WE buy or what WE do.

    I work 2 jobs and bust my ass, as does my wife. However, we still make time for one another. We have a small (3 bedroom) but nice home and enjoy vacations and have decent vehicles. Some always like to comment about this and that. Drives us nuts. Or make the ignorant comments, "You know, once you have kids, you are going to have to sell that 67 camaro. Just wait, you'll see." And we don't have kids yet, but 1 one the way, but before that, it seems like some used to hold that over our heads. Like they were better than us, because they have children. Or they would make comments about how thin my wife is..lol. She was 113lbs (gained some w/ the baby). She eats, but works her ass off and has a physically demanding job. I love the unsolicited advice too...lol.

    Anyone else have "friends" like these? How do you deal with them?
    Just annoyed at the moment I guess, sorry for the bitchin'...
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    I understand where you're coming from. I think we all have those "friends" that can't NOT make comments about one thing or another. I think it just stems from they are dissatisfied about things in their lives, and want to bring others down. Misery loves company!

    I always just tell them let me worry about me and if you don't like how I do things, you don't have to stick around. A few of them, the ones that really annoyed me, I just eliminated from my life. At one point I used to love confrontation (lol) but now that I'm calming down over the years I just assume not deal with the BS anymore.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by jsaild2 View Post
      I understand where you're coming from. I think we all have those "friends" that can't NOT make comments about one thing or another. I think it just stems from they are dissatisfied about things in their lives, and want to bring others down. Misery loves company!

      I always just tell them let me worry about me and if you don't like how I do things, you don't have to stick around. A few of them, the ones that really annoyed me, I just eliminated from my life. At one point I used to love confrontation (lol) but now that I'm calming down over the years I just assume not deal with the BS anymore.
      Right...I would love to lose it on them. But they have qualities I like, which is why we are friends. And I would look like the bad guy for telling them to Go F$%k Themselves. But it would feel good at times. I like your approach though.
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      • #4
        Literally lol'd as we experience this EXACT thing. "Just wait til you have kids." Or "It must be nice." You know what shitbag?! It IS nice. Especially because exactly like you guys we bust our asses to have what we do. It must be nice to use your kids as an excuse or to be a lazy turd too.

        Fuck them man. If someone's not hating then you're not doing anything worth hating. Cut ties with those types of people. It's the easiest way to eliminate the aggravation.
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        • #5
          I love all my haters
          :preach:

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          • #6
            Yeah I just minimize my interaction with those people.
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            • #7
              Originally posted by Adam2433 View Post
              Literally lol'd as we experience this EXACT thing. "Just wait til you have kids." Or "It must be nice." You know what shitbag?! It IS nice. Especially because exactly like you guys we bust our asses to have what we do. It must be nice to use your kids as an excuse or to be a lazy turd too.

              Fuck them man. If someone's not hating then you're not doing anything worth hating. Cut ties with those types of people. It's the easiest way to eliminate the aggravation.
              We had this exact conversation, I have kids and I still do what I want, sorry you're too damn lazy and don't work as hard as I do. They wouldn't be talking shit about you of you weren't doing shit worth talking about.. They aren't friends, they are leeches, upset because they don't have what you do, dead weight.

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              • #8
                I have said this time and time again: People resent others for having and doing what they do not or cannot. Jealousy is pretty accurate, I think.

                Speaking only for myself, I distance myself from people that resent me. I might not tell them off or cut all ties but I certainly distance myself from them because I see it as negative. You should NEVER have to question what you do or what you spend your money on - whether it is responsible or not, it is YOUR business and no one else's.

                Kids are an excuse, for a LOT of people from not having the car they want to not having a motorcycle to not being able to go to the gym, etc.. Kids are a very convenient excuse for a lot of shit.

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                • #9
                  It seems to have gotten worse when I started doing real estate as a side job (and it's turned out to be a lucrative side job that I'm becoming good at). Some people love to make sure how smart everyone thinks they are. Everyone is an expert. ... or so they think.
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by breck View Post
                    It seems to have gotten worse when I started doing real estate as a side job (and it's turned out to be a lucrative side job that I'm becoming good at). Some people love to make sure how smart everyone thinks they are. Everyone is an expert. ... or so they think.
                    Lucrative being the issue, I am sure.

                    If it is negative and it weighs on you, put space between you and them. You gotta cover your ass, first, and keep yourself happy and you don't ever want to feel guilty for being successful.

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                    • #11
                      Everyone has an awesome idea about a new business, or how to run a business, or where to set up their business, but in the end if they don't do shit, they're just dreaming. Kudos for having the balls to go out there and get an extra source of income.

                      Friends should be supportive, not bringing you down. Only one of my friends gets on my ass on things but only because he wants me to do better so I don't mind it. Kinda annoying/intimidating/inspiring to have a friend who's pretty good at investment banking.
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                      • #12
                        i agree with pretty much everything everybody has said....I vote for cutting ties altogether. Yes this sounds harsh i know but anyone that isnt happy for you and your success and actually resents you enough that they comment on it do NOT have your best interests at heart.

                        Btw kid do change things ALOT. Doesnt mean you have to turn into an outta-shape POS with no work ethic or drive.

                        i have a pretty good ability to "get a read on people", and i run the other way from peopel that arent happy with themselves and thier lives. Unhappy people tend project that on others and create excuses why they are unhappy and why "its so easy for others". Life's to short to deal with that shit.....
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                        • #13
                          Good points.

                          And before we told friends we were expecting ( please don't mention this on FB or wife will kill me) it seemed like our friends with kids made it a point to make every conversation about their children. ..yada yada. I love kids and excited to have our own. .. but children will not consume my life where every minute detail revolves around them. I can't wait for their parenting advice. ..lol.

                          Thanks again for everyone's tips, stories, etc... now I will be enjoying my 67 convertible that will accommodate a car seat. .ha
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                          • #14
                            Good points.

                            And before we told friends we were expecting ( please don't mention this on FB or wife will kill me) it seemed like our friends with kids made it a point to make every conversation about their children. ..yada yada. I love kids and excited to have our own. .. but children will not consume my life where every minute detail revolves around them. I can't wait for their parenting advice. ..lol.

                            Thanks again for everyone's tips, stories, etc... now I will be enjoying my 67 convertible that will accommodate a car seat. .ha
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                            • #15
                              Oh yes.... The parenting advice. LOL

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