But I can't be. I am hurting so bad and have to vent somewhere...I can't on facebook for obvious reasons and I can't to my wife or family cause I have to be the strong one...I have to help her. That's my job. My job is to protect my family and someone is trying to rip it appart.
My son was born feb 4th... we decided that in the begining I would stay home with him, it was logical based on jobs, careers, benefits, etc... we did not want a daycare raising our son so i have been with him just about every second of his life.... on wednsday of this week his birth mother said she wants him back....
Rewind-in november a friend of a friend approached us and asked if we would be interested in adopting the baby she was carrying (she informed us that she has attempted to abort his on three different occasions, we don't know the details but she did say that the last time she was sick and said they told her to come back)...being that we want nothing more than a family...we said we would... as time went by she got to the point that she said she was sure and wanted us to have him. We remained scared cause we did not know what would happen at birth. She asked us to be there-my wife was in the delivery room-she had my in-laws come to the hospital and meet the boy we named...she put my name on the birth certificate and gave him my last name...we took him home from the hospital on feb 6th...she is staying with the mutual friend that lives next door to us... she brought over cloths from her other child, brought over formula...spoke of how happy she was with her decision. ... txt us, posted fb msgs, etc... about how happy she was and how we were helping her...she had a one year old, a ten year old and was staying at our mutual friends house with her boyfriend (who is believed to be the father).. she has nothing... she sent my wife msgs a cpl weeks ago asking if she had the papers for her to sign yet... now this...
I have looked my son in the eyes, told him how much I love him, that I will never leave him and that I would do anything for him....I have to keep my word!
We hired a lawyer and he says we have an over 50% chance...he is arguing basically that the adoption was complete and the papers were basically a formality....poor analogy but kinda like if I sell you a car but don't have the title to sign when I sell it to you BUT I post about the sale oon FB, txt you about the car, talk about how happy I am that I sold you the car, etc...then call the cops and say you stole my car cause I never signed the title...I know that is not a great analogy or example but that is kinda the idea... that everything was done and agreed upon and the papers are not even needed.
She has been postibg all over her facebook page now about how we took her child, we have no chance, her family is making threatening comments towards my wife (I DONT want to hurt her kids but I am gonna HAVE TO getva restraining order and they will be homeless) she is talkibg about the papers the lawyer served her with not even understanding what they say. This is the same woman that called the cops and had her boyfriend removed from the home the nt before she gave birth...
Can we win? Our lawyer seems to believe we have a real good chance but no matter what-my son deserves to be fought for...I am trying to save his life here. I feel shattered....I cry every time I am alone...I have no clue what I would do. I can't let her ruin this child... he holds his arms out if I go near him, just for me. He knows my voice and it calms him...
I don't know why I'm even typing this here...probably cause no one KNOWS me... there is no need for replies I jyst had to get it out somewhere.
My son was born feb 4th... we decided that in the begining I would stay home with him, it was logical based on jobs, careers, benefits, etc... we did not want a daycare raising our son so i have been with him just about every second of his life.... on wednsday of this week his birth mother said she wants him back....
Rewind-in november a friend of a friend approached us and asked if we would be interested in adopting the baby she was carrying (she informed us that she has attempted to abort his on three different occasions, we don't know the details but she did say that the last time she was sick and said they told her to come back)...being that we want nothing more than a family...we said we would... as time went by she got to the point that she said she was sure and wanted us to have him. We remained scared cause we did not know what would happen at birth. She asked us to be there-my wife was in the delivery room-she had my in-laws come to the hospital and meet the boy we named...she put my name on the birth certificate and gave him my last name...we took him home from the hospital on feb 6th...she is staying with the mutual friend that lives next door to us... she brought over cloths from her other child, brought over formula...spoke of how happy she was with her decision. ... txt us, posted fb msgs, etc... about how happy she was and how we were helping her...she had a one year old, a ten year old and was staying at our mutual friends house with her boyfriend (who is believed to be the father).. she has nothing... she sent my wife msgs a cpl weeks ago asking if she had the papers for her to sign yet... now this...
I have looked my son in the eyes, told him how much I love him, that I will never leave him and that I would do anything for him....I have to keep my word!
We hired a lawyer and he says we have an over 50% chance...he is arguing basically that the adoption was complete and the papers were basically a formality....poor analogy but kinda like if I sell you a car but don't have the title to sign when I sell it to you BUT I post about the sale oon FB, txt you about the car, talk about how happy I am that I sold you the car, etc...then call the cops and say you stole my car cause I never signed the title...I know that is not a great analogy or example but that is kinda the idea... that everything was done and agreed upon and the papers are not even needed.
She has been postibg all over her facebook page now about how we took her child, we have no chance, her family is making threatening comments towards my wife (I DONT want to hurt her kids but I am gonna HAVE TO getva restraining order and they will be homeless) she is talkibg about the papers the lawyer served her with not even understanding what they say. This is the same woman that called the cops and had her boyfriend removed from the home the nt before she gave birth...
Can we win? Our lawyer seems to believe we have a real good chance but no matter what-my son deserves to be fought for...I am trying to save his life here. I feel shattered....I cry every time I am alone...I have no clue what I would do. I can't let her ruin this child... he holds his arms out if I go near him, just for me. He knows my voice and it calms him...
I don't know why I'm even typing this here...probably cause no one KNOWS me... there is no need for replies I jyst had to get it out somewhere.
Comment