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    Ok guys I am 40 and have been divorced for over 2 years now. I have a 6 year old son and have moved in my parents due to there bad health. My mother has cogestive heart failure and has had 2 surgerys on her heart. They repaired the mitro valve at first and then put a sock like device around it to help it from getting any larger. The valve repair didn't work so they had to do another surgery to replace the valve with a man made one. Now the valve is leaking and Mom doesn't know if she could take the pain of a third surgey and the Dr.s don't think right now she is strong enough for it and she is a diabetic. She keeps that all under control and it is good as it gets.
    My father has something going on with his body that it is eating up his bones. He takes injenctions for vitamin d and other vitamins but they are depleted daily and has to take them all the time and can't do much of the stuff that is needed to maintain a home. He is not a nice person and only thinks of himself and thats a whole nother story.
    I didn't want to move in with them but I was always raised family first so here I am. I pay rent, what it would cost me for an apartment with utilities and buy my own food and pay all of my own bills. I pick up what extras I can to help out because most of there money goes for medical expenses or basic bills.
    So now here I am wanting to date again and I am so shy when it comes to meeting or approaching women. It is like I would rather take an ass whooping than speak to them. I want to get over that and I want to hear from the group here what advice would you give to places to meet women at and what to say? I never have dated much in my life. I don't want a bar girl and don't really want to date anyone from work. My ex works at the same place and also I did that after the divorce and that one cheated and I caught her.
    Thanks.

  • #2
    Sounds like you have a lot on your plate to be starting a new relationship. Is it ready to "date" or ready to "get laid?"

    If it is get laid, who cares if she is a "bar girl?" Just a thought...

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    • #3
      I would start shopping at farmer's markets or stores like Whole Foods. Usually good looking, successful women who are healthy and take care of themselves.

      As far as cold approaches go, that's just practice and learning not to give a fuck what people think, and learning to not care about getting shot down.

      I've never been 40 so I'm sure the older guys here will be able to give you more advice.

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      • #4
        I'll tell you, I am your age, and have a lot of friends who are now divorced. Most of them swear by the Internet dating scene....there are many sites. I guess it depends on what you are looking for. For me, if I was in your position and just wanted to get laid, I would probably just hire a good looking escort, but if you really wanna DATE, and you're shy in the way of meeting people, online maybe a great way to break the ice before actually meeting someone.....
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        • #5
          Shit dude, if you find out, let me know :smow:
          Ph.D., Theoretical Physics '16
          kind of a douche

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Quadriceps View Post
            As far as cold approaches go, that's just practice and learning not to give a fuck what people think, and learning to not care about getting shot down.

            This. If she doesn't call back it's her loss.



            Pro-tip #1: doing an Elvis impression within the first five minutes of meeting someone (and by meeting I really mean you standing there telling me your life story in a single breath) might not be the best approach.

            Pro-tip #2: don't tell a girl right after watching her squat that you just had to talk to her because you knew she was an intelligent human being. Is this real life? Compliments are nice, but this is sum bs.


            Good luck!
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            • #7
              Craigslist! Or bingo at the local church.
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              • #8
                Originally posted by steel1970 View Post
                I'll tell you, I am your age, and have a lot of friends who are now divorced. Most of them swear by the Internet dating scene....there are many sites. I guess it depends on what you are looking for. For me, if I was in your position and just wanted to get laid, I would probably just hire a good looking escort, but if you really wanna DATE, and you're shy in the way of meeting people, online maybe a great way to break the ice before actually meeting someone.....
                Count me as one that on-line dating has worked for.

                In my late 30's my wife threw me out...she did it cause she cared about me. I moved close to family and rented a townhouse by my mom. She got cancer, could not work, could not do much of anything so I dropped my place and took over her rent and bills (just for info sake, I took nothing when my ex and I split...no money, left 3 cars, left everything behind).... As she was getting better I just got tired of being alone. Decided to try match.com. went out with a cpl girls and then met my Angel. Was honest from the start....seperated and about to go through a divorce, had nothing really to my name, had no career where I was living, told her all about my past, etc... I have been with her 4 years now and am getting married in September.

                I guess I'm just saying....yea on-line dating works but BE HONEST and realize that not all people are. Meet people with an open mind and get to know them.
                Follow my NEW journal if you please:


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                • #9
                  Originally posted by thedunhill225 View Post
                  In my late 30's my wife threw me out...she did it cause she cared about me.
                  wat :twitch:



                  On the bright side, congrats on finding happiness elsewhere. :whoo:
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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by thedunhill225 View Post
                    I guess I'm just saying....yea on-line dating works but BE HONEST and realize that not all people are. Meet people with an open mind and get to know them.
                    Also be aware that a very large percentage of women on online dating sites are flaky and nutty as FUCK. There's a reason most people on online dating sites are using them...

                    Originally posted by nexa View Post
                    wat :twitch:
                    Face it, if you were living with dunhill you'd throw him out, too. :whisper:
                    Ph.D., Theoretical Physics '16
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by nexa View Post
                      wat :twitch:



                      On the bright side, congrats on finding happiness elsewhere. :whoo:
                      I wasn't gonna change what I was doing and who I was WHERE I was. There was no guarantee I was gonna change anywhere but the odds were better.

                      I don't wanna take over the thread so that's all I'll say. I went into some of it recently in my journal but not all of it.
                      Follow my NEW journal if you please:


                      http://www.intensemuscle.com/showthread.php?t=48304

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                      "You are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You."
                      Dr. Seuss


                      I would like to thank all the stupid people of the world. Without you guys I would only be average.


                      "Tell them bitches get a stick I'm done leading the blind"
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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Sammich View Post
                        Also be aware that a very large percentage of women on online dating sites are flaky and nutty as FUCK. There's a reason most people on online dating sites are using them...


                        Face it, if you were living with dunhill you'd throw him out, too. :whisper:
                        Sure....but there are wackos everywhere. After bartending for about 18 years I can say I think the bars are far worse.
                        It also depends on the site you use. Use POF and you'll find a ton (if ya just wanna get laid, try POF) BUT use some of the more mature and reputable sites and its not as bad. I spoke to several wackos but you can weed them out pretty easily. The girls I went out on 'dates' with were all pretty normal and nice. It's pretty common now a days.

                        Oh and I think your still just upset that I didn't take you up on your dinner offer.
                        I'm sorry Sammy.
                        Follow my NEW journal if you please:


                        http://www.intensemuscle.com/showthread.php?t=48304

                        "They say I'm no good...cause I'm so hood, rich folks do not want me around" 50

                        "You are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You."
                        Dr. Seuss


                        I would like to thank all the stupid people of the world. Without you guys I would only be average.


                        "Tell them bitches get a stick I'm done leading the blind"
                        Nicki Minaj

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by thedunhill225 View Post
                          Sure....but there are wackos everywhere. After bartending for about 18 years I can say I think the bars are far worse.
                          It also depends on the site you use. Use POF and you'll find a ton (if ya just wanna get laid, try POF) BUT use some of the more mature and reputable sites and its not as bad. I spoke to several wackos but you can weed them out pretty easily. The girls I went out on 'dates' with were all pretty normal and nice. It's pretty common now a days.

                          Oh and I think your still just upset that I didn't take you up on your dinner offer.
                          I'm sorry Sammy.
                          I'm telling you right now the percentage of nutty people on online dating sites (ALL of them) is WAY higher than you'd find in the general populace.
                          Ph.D., Theoretical Physics '16
                          kind of a douche

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                          • #14
                            You could always crash a chemistry party! :whoo: A couple of the physics guys ended up pairing off with some of my chemistry mates when I was in grad school. :whoo:
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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Sammich View Post
                              I'm telling you right now the percentage of nutty people on online dating sites (ALL of them) is WAY higher than you'd find in the general populace.
                              I don't doubt that.... BUT I don't think its as high as the average bar at 11pm or later (at least on some of the sites) AND its pretty easy to read their profile and talk to them and weed out a lot of the nuts. Ya just gotta use common sense. I'm just talking from experience here...
                              Follow my NEW journal if you please:


                              http://www.intensemuscle.com/showthread.php?t=48304

                              "They say I'm no good...cause I'm so hood, rich folks do not want me around" 50

                              "You are you. That is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You."
                              Dr. Seuss


                              I would like to thank all the stupid people of the world. Without you guys I would only be average.


                              "Tell them bitches get a stick I'm done leading the blind"
                              Nicki Minaj

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